Why Your Baby Fights Sleep, Even When They’re Tired!
The Exhausting Mystery
You’ve fed them. Changed them. Rocked them gently for what feels like hours. They’re yawning, rubbing their eyes, maybe even starting to doze off—only to suddenly jerk awake, arch their back, or start wailing all over again.
If this feels painfully familiar, you’re not alone. As a sleep consultant, I hear this all the time: “My baby is clearly tired—so why won’t they sleep?”
What’s Really Going On
Babies fight sleep for a variety of reasons, and it’s rarely because they’re not tired. Here are some of the most common causes:
Overtiredness: When babies miss their ideal sleep window, their bodies release stress hormones that make it harder to settle.
Overstimulation: Too much noise, light, or activity can make it hard for babies to wind down.
Discomfort: Teething, gas, or even a scratchy sleep sack can disrupt sleep readiness.
Developmental leaps: New skills like rolling or babbling can make sleep feel less appealing.
Separation anxiety: Around 6–9 months, babies may resist sleep because they don’t want to be apart from you.
Gentle Ways to Help
Instead of pushing harder for sleep, try softening the approach:
Watch for early cues: Yawning, zoning out, rubbing eyes—these are your green lights.
Create a calming wind-down: Dim lights, soft voices, and a predictable routine help signal rest.
Offer connection: A few minutes of cuddling or quiet play can ease transitions.
Adjust expectations: Some days will be harder than others. That’s okay.
Sleep Support That Feels Kind
When I work with families, we don’t chase perfection. We look at what’s working, what’s feeling hard, and how to make sleep feel less stressful for everyone.
If your baby is fighting sleep and you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just unsure—know this: it’s not your fault. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.
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